Life is a journey…

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We’re in Wales by chance /luck /good fortune / lack of constraint / great openmindness / not taking our responsibilities seriously/ taking our responsibilities very seriously…. depends from what mind you view our actions.

I would say that life is about keeping an open mind, and following the heart.  There are so many paths to explore, why fix the route?

I liken it to following a map and road signs rather than SATNAV.  SATNAV takes you from A to B on the quickest or easiest route.  You remain completely oblivious to the places and sights you might only be moments away from.  You just focus on the end goal.  The final destination.  You don’t even read the road signs as you pass them (especially those lovely brown touristy ones and those white ones with weird sounding names of teeny villages and hamlets)

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Following the route on a map you might notice points C,E, D…X, Y, Z; just off in the distance that you could easily detour too.  You can see that there is another, slightly more wiggly path that might be an interesting alternative to part of your journey and you can just nip off in that direction for a bit and take in the sights.

I always read the map.


I can be heading along the road of life and I get to a junction.  SATNAV would have me go straight on, but over there to the left of me there’s this really cool looking thing going on, so I whip off along that new route.  Once I’m there I could still head back the way I came, and I might, but from this new position there’s another junction and there are loads of circular routes to explore and even a couple of longer roads and corners to venture down where who knows what might be at the end.  Exciting isn’t it?  Ok so it might be a dead end.  I may have to double back a bit.  But what have I really lost?  I haven’t really lost any time, I’ve used that time to try something or see something and concluded its not for me.  I’ve had an experience.  Hopefully I’ve learned something from that experience…. time will tell.

I still have a destination to reach.  My destination is happiness and fulfillment.  See my children grow with open hearts and minds of their own.  Embrace my grandchildren.  Give back to the planet.  Love and be loved.  Fit in as much happiness for me and those around me as I can before I die.

All our lives are a journey from A to Z . None of us get out of it alive.   So why not explore a little?  We don’t need to take the most direct route.

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Mission Mindfulness

Breaking News : 64 Million Artists and The January Challenge

Day 8: #TheJanuaryChallenge  @64M_Artists
Breaking News
This just in: artists and creatively inclined people from around the world are gathering on social media to share, inspire and be a little more mindful. It’s all part of a new year initiative to get us all creating and it seems to be working. Hundred, if not thousands of individuals from all walks of life, of all ages, have joined together and created a community, forging friendships, sharing stories of joy and misadventure; and bolstering each others confidence and sense of wellbeing.
One artist (me) from a little rural village in the middle of the middle of Wales said, “Yesterday was wonderful, I spent the whole day thinking about the challenge and checking in but i just could not get my head around it.  I don’t know why, maybe lack of sleep, maybe because I don’t wear jumpers, anyway I just could not get creative over the ‘jumper challenge’ so i just came clean to the group,.  They supported me through it.  Another artist, Ven, even created one for me ! How great is that! It gave me a nice warm fuzzy feeling. Well I guess jumpers do that: especially when you’re from America and finally realise that a ‘jumper’ is really a ‘sweater’ and not a pinafore… and they say we speak the same language!
As the January Challenge embarks on its second week , people are already excited about what the organisers at 64 Million Artists have in store for them but say they’re up for the challenges and to keep them coming…
This is Berni Benton from llanwrtyd Wells, saying goodbye for now and see you next time

Press notes:

taken from their FB page….
64 Million Artists is a charity campaigning to unlock the creative potential of every human being in Britain. It began life as 53 Million Artists in 2014 and they’ve been working with people all over the country to help them get creative on their own terms, celebrating their passion and flair and encouraging them to Do, Think and Share

Were you always told you couldn’t sing? Draw? Write? Dance? Cook? We’re here to tell you different.

64 Million Artists is about having a go, not about being an expert. We’re inviting everyone in Britain to do something new and celebrate their creativity, to be proud of their passion, and show their flair.

Why not join in, it doesn’t matter that you missed the start ….

Further notes:

Each challenge only needs to take 5-10 minutes.  Its not about the quality of the work its more about the thought process and how it made you feel… getting us all to be a bit more mindful…

Today is day 8 the challenge: “Breaking News – My Life”

DO: What is your day to day life like? Pretend you’re a news reporter and report on your day. It can be a video of you telling us what you’re getting up to today, a cooking show for when you’re making your dinner, a newspaper article with key headlines for the day or just a series of photos. If you do choose to do a video report you don’t have to show your face – we just want to see what everyone is getting up to today!

THINK: Did your day turn out differently than you expected it to? Did you feel comfortable filming your every day life?

SHAREShow us your day!

Facebook Page: 64millionartists
Closed Facebook Group: 64 Million Artists – The January Challengers
Instagram: 64millionartists
Twitter: @64M_Artists

IF YOU HAVE MORE TIME ; Create a report at the end of the day, how is your day different to when you started it? Did you complete the tasks you set out to do? Did it turn out to be completely different than expected?

One Messy Mama


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Free (non)Thinking…

A very good friend of mine advocates ‘No Box Thinking’ . In fact , in a past chapter of her eclectic life, she wrote and delivered seminars about it.  I’ve not seen her seminar…perhaps I should watch it, I’m sure there’s a video or podcast out there somewhere.

Anyway, the premise is based around forgetting the sales/marketing propaganda of ‘thinking outside the box’ and instead just get rid of the damned box.  Sounds like perfect sense to me.  In fact I thought I lived by this very premise: not pigeon holing life; not following set paths.  I really believed that not only did I agree with the overarching idea, but that I was successfully both teaching that ideology to my son and leading by example.  I really thought I was living without a box.

Then I went away for a couple of nights and realised that whilst I live outside of the ‘norm’ and largely don’t conform by walking the marked paths of progress and expectation; my life, like most people’s, has become so full and busy that I only see outside the near peripheries of what I already do.

My boxes may be large and colourful, and not particularly cuboid, but they still exists.  I’m still constrained by them.

A few hours into a car journey towards a rare 2 days off for a little R&R and my busy little mind wandered off ; it meandered outside of its normal constraints and met up with some random ideas and options.

I thought I had life sussed, but I realise now that my life lacks one vital ingredient for ‘no box thinking’ … that ingredient is best described as ‘Nothing time’;  moments of time where the mind is not processing data; not reviewing existing projects and ‘to do’ lists; not worrying about outstanding commitments; pressing engagements; the shopping; the cleaning; the kids; work ; phone calls that should have been made; emails that need to be sent; letters that need to be composed.  I’m talking about those rare moments when your mind is silent.

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Perhaps silent is the wrong word.  I mean moments when the butterfly cage of the mind is opened and the butterfly can flutter off and explore the wider landscape and take an aerial view of life.

Precious moments of free (non)thinking have broadened my horizons.  I’ve viewed my landscape from way above the ceiling I’m normally constrained by and as such I’ve spotted a few more paths worth exploring.

Like me, you may already have a life full of joy and activities; love and fun; as well as work and routine. Like me you may not crave anything else: BUT I challenge you to afford yourself some nothing time, a few moments of free (non)thinking, and see where your imagination might take you…….

Dinah Liversidge is now a small holder, country dweller, crafter, active community member, wedding celebrant, motivator and general super cool superstar of a woman living in rural wales and I am lucky enough to call her my friend.  In a past life chapter she was a life coach and mentor and ocasionally she slips back into it both officially and unofficially.  She once mentioned to me her program of no box thinking and it stuck in my head.  When i am lucky enough to have her to myself for a few hours, i find her inspirational.  i never leave from time with her without a spark alight in my mind and the ideas and energy just flows from there. we may not even have been talking about the project i become motivated to do.; but I am always more alive and more motivated after some time with her…  you can find her here... or here…

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