Life is a journey…

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We’re in Wales by chance /luck /good fortune / lack of constraint / great openmindness / not taking our responsibilities seriously/ taking our responsibilities very seriously…. depends from what mind you view our actions.

I would say that life is about keeping an open mind, and following the heart.  There are so many paths to explore, why fix the route?

I liken it to following a map and road signs rather than SATNAV.  SATNAV takes you from A to B on the quickest or easiest route.  You remain completely oblivious to the places and sights you might only be moments away from.  You just focus on the end goal.  The final destination.  You don’t even read the road signs as you pass them (especially those lovely brown touristy ones and those white ones with weird sounding names of teeny villages and hamlets)

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Following the route on a map you might notice points C,E, D…X, Y, Z; just off in the distance that you could easily detour too.  You can see that there is another, slightly more wiggly path that might be an interesting alternative to part of your journey and you can just nip off in that direction for a bit and take in the sights.

I always read the map.

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I can be heading along the road of life and I get to a junction.  SATNAV would have me go straight on, but over there to the left of me there’s this really cool looking thing going on, so I whip off along that new route.  Once I’m there I could still head back the way I came, and I might, but from this new position there’s another junction and there are loads of circular routes to explore and even a couple of longer roads and corners to venture down where who knows what might be at the end.  Exciting isn’t it?  Ok so it might be a dead end.  I may have to double back a bit.  But what have I really lost?  I haven’t really lost any time, I’ve used that time to try something or see something and concluded its not for me.  I’ve had an experience.  Hopefully I’ve learned something from that experience…. time will tell.

I still have a destination to reach.  My destination is happiness and fulfillment.  See my children grow with open hearts and minds of their own.  Embrace my grandchildren.  Give back to the planet.  Love and be loved.  Fit in as much happiness for me and those around me as I can before I die.

All our lives are a journey from A to Z . None of us get out of it alive.   So why not explore a little?  We don’t need to take the most direct route.

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Mission Mindfulness

Offering a free weekend away in exchange for a bit of techie help..

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Confused? Very.

I’m so confused I can’t even work out what I need to know about to stop the confusion.

A month ago I wasn’t confused I was just lacking in knowledge.  I had a clear path I needed to walk in order to reach my goal

1.  I need to use twitter lists more effectively

2. I need to monetize (I hate that word) my blog

So I started reading blogs and posts about these things.  They all made sense until I tried to action the points.  I’m then met with what may as well be Swahili and loads of information that seems to not quite be for me.

I upgraded my free WordPress plan ( twice ) as the first one (seemingly) added no value. I now have a ‘premium’ site (only as of today) so I can apparently do a lot more.  For example I can customise my CSS! ???

So now I need to also know what the f** k my CSS even is!  How did I live without it and what do I do with it now I have it?  So I follow a hyperlink which tells me how easy it is and leads to another and another hyperlink of information.  I’ve lost the tab I originally had open. I’m lost

I also discovered I would benefit from StumbledUpon.  Does this premium WordPress account allow this?  I think not, maybe? Maybe I need a business account to ‘Stumble’?  I haven’t even got to grips with this plan.

But now I also need to learn how to use and find time to regularly engage with ‘StumbledUpon’ …I’ve set up an account….

I discovered that there are several ways to ‘monetize’ (yep still hate it)… I can ‘affiliate’… now I need to learn what and how to affiliate myself…  I joined a couple of ‘Influencer’ sites but I think they’re USA based and I really want something in the UK (or do I?)

I can engage in pay-per-click.  How?

I need a page for Work with Me.  I’m daunted.  What do I offer?  What is there to offer?  How do I offer it?  At what rate should I offer it?

I  am told I need to set up Google Analytics… I thought I had.  I tried to link my blog… there are no stats for my blog.  I have to add some code to my blog – cut and paste, very simple… where the f**k do I put it in WordPress?

I think I need the icons for the linkys I’m part of on a side bar… how do I create a new side bar.  were do I put the code?

The more I read the more questions I have.  The more I realise I need.  The more I realise I don’t know.  The more my confidence dwindles.  The more my frustration rises.  The more time I lose.  The more I realise I don’t even know what questions to ask or even what answers I need.

I have so much part information in my head I feel like I might explode.  I’m flitting from one thing I must do to move forward to another .  I am a rabbit in the headlights.

I’m missing a trick or three but I don’t even know where to begin to look for them

I’m not stupid but I feel like a complete moron.  Am I really as inept as all of this is making me feel?

In forward offered gratitude, with mental desperation and feeling decidedly thick and useless; I am offering the one thing I am confident at being able to offer at its best.  A weekend away for 2 at my beautiful, cosy B&B in the Heart of Wales .  In exchange all I ask is for a couple or 3 hours of expert one to one guidance with my WordPress blog and maybe a little bit of advice on better using Twitter.  I know I’m missing something(s) but I don’t know what they are.

PS: I have wine….and gin

My Random Musings

Baby, its time for solid food….

My daughter in law had her first baby six months ago tomorrow.  Her and my step son are wonderful parents.  They are attentive and relaxed.  They give their son all the time and input they can.  He is being raised in a loving home with able parents.  He is being raised in a bi-lingual environment, he will be able to speak English and Mandarin.  He is clearly healthy, weighing in at 9.6 kg and being in the 93rd percentile on the length/height charts.  He’s strong, active and on target or ahead on all the NHS measurements for growth and development.  These new parents follow all the rules…..

…and therein lies a problem.  The bloody RULES.  Not guidelines.  Rules.

When I had my son 20 years ago, solids were introduced at 3 months.  By just shy of 3 months I was desperate to feed my son something more than breast milk.  He was obviously always hungry and I and hubby were obviously always tired.  It was zombie-like in our home.  The rules now say no solids until 6 months.  SIX MONTHS!!!!  Our grandson is the size of some 1 year olds.  He is happy, smiley , active and healthy.  He is also hungry every 30 minutes throughout the night.

This week we visited and I had a chance to reiterate the story of our son, and to properly offer suggestion that they might dare to break the RULE.  So at 5 months and 3.5 weeks my daughter-in-law felt brave enough to break the health visitors rules and she fed solids to our grandson.  He slept. She slept.  For the first night in almost 6 months she slept in her own bed and not with the baby.  Normal life can continue.

Health visitors, PLEASE, treat each baby and family as individuals.  Stop spouting general rules.  It’s not always helpful, beneficial or in the best interest of the baby and parents.

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There is nothing quite like rocking a baby to sleep in your arms

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